When "Bitch" Feels Like a Badge of Honor

Hey Viva Fam,

Okay, so this might sound a little out there, but we've been thinking about something lately. Sometimes, when people call us a "bitch," it actually makes us feel... good? Like, not in a "yay, I'm being insulted!" kind of way, but more like, "Heck yeah, we're living our truth!"

Hear us out on this one. For so long, that word has been thrown around to shut women down. You know the drill – speak your mind? Bitch. Stand up for yourself? Bitch. Know what you want and aren't afraid to ask for it? You guessed it. It's like any time we step outside this tiny little box society tries to put us in, the "B" word gets whipped out.

But what if we flipped the script? What if, instead of shrinking away when we hear it, we actually took a second to think about why someone might be saying that?

For some of us, getting called a "bitch" can actually feel like confirmation that we're doing something right. Maybe it means we're finally setting boundaries that people aren't used to us setting. Maybe it means we're being assertive in a world that still isn't totally comfortable with women taking up space and having opinions.

Think about it. When have you felt the most like you were firing on all cylinders? Maybe it was when you finally said "no" to something you didn't want to do, even if it ruffled some feathers. Maybe it was when you stood your ground in a negotiation or spoke up in a meeting. Those are the moments when someone might be tempted to throw that word our way, right?

But in those moments, aren't we also feeling pretty damn powerful? Aren't we tapping into a part of ourselves that refuses to be silenced or ignored? It's like that label, meant to be negative, actually becomes a sign that we're not backing down. We're living our potential, even if it makes some people uncomfortable.

Now, this isn't about going around trying to get people to call us names. And it definitely doesn't mean that the word isn't still hurtful in certain contexts. But for some of us, that feeling of being called a "bitch" can weirdly align with a sense of strength and authenticity.

It's almost like we've reclaimed it. Instead of letting it be an insult, we're seeing it as a sign that we're not afraid to be who we are, even if it goes against the grain. It's a reminder that sometimes, living at our full potential means we might not always be the "nice" or "agreeable" woman society expects. And maybe, just maybe, that's perfectly okay.

What do you think? Have you ever felt this way? Let's chat about it in the comments!